🏴☠️ The Bounty
🏴☠️ The Bounty
I, Anatoliy (Toli) Zaslavskiy, am thrilled to unveil an unconventional but heartfelt initiative:
A $100,000 bounty for the soul who bridges me to my future primary partner.
This is a quest for love, rooted in creativity and openness, inviting us to weave our destinies together in a story of growth, adventure, and deep connection.
This initiative highlights the transformative nature of meaningful relationships, using financial incentives in a deliberate and thoughtful way.
Here’s how it unfolds:
- Initial Commitment: A year after the introduction, if we both decide to become primary partners, the introducer receives the first installment ($25,000)
- Vesting Schedule: The balance is paid in monthly installments over the next three years, rewarding the introducer for their part in a potentially life-changing connection.
▶️ Youtube Talk: How I Learned Empathy with Asperger’s
(~8 years old)
📞 Contact / Apply
- Nominate a Match - Suggest someone you think would be an excellent match for me. Limit to 3 referrals per person. Quality over quantity please 😉
- Explore a Connection - Interested in dating me? Submit your application here.
- For any questions or more information, reach out at toli@toli.love
– With ❤️ Anatoliy (Toli) Zaslavskiy
As Seen In
- New York Times Valentines Day Edition Front Page
- Winnepeg Sun
- Daily Mail
- Canoe
- Toronto Sun
- Vancouver Sun
💔 Do Dating Bounties Kill the Romance?
Fascinated by the fusion of love and innovation, I’ve deeply considered the essence of romance in our digital era.
My initial reveal on HackerNews (original post was removed) in December 2021 sparked intense debate, with critiques focusing on the supposed “commercialization” of love.
Yet, a poignant question from a journalist in February 2024 made me reflect:
Do you think that this approach undermines the essence of romance in dating?
Despite criticisms, my heart has always been rooted in romanticism. This journey isn’t about commodifying love but seeking a unique, heartfelt connection aligned with my values.
My past relationships have been the bedrock of my life, enriching me with unwavering friendship, support, and love. They’ve illuminated the path to self-acceptance and growth, as we embraced new passions and navigated life’s myriad challenges together.
In these relationships, we learned the art of surrendering your ego, transitioning from certainty in our perspectives to the humility of recognizing our mistakes. In these moments of true connection, the external world seemed to dissolve, revealing life as a beautiful illusion, but a reflection of the greater Self.
Each partnership, though it ended, left an indelible mark on my soul, priceless beyond measure. Despite the inevitable heartaches, I cherish these journeys for the depth and lessons they’ve imparted. Reflecting on this, the notion of a $100,000 bounty pales in comparison to the value of these profound experiences.
Thus, this bounty extends an invitation for more than just companionship; it seeks a co-creator for a saga of adventure, growth, and heartfelt connection.
⏳ [THE MATH] The “Vesting Schedule”
- One Year Cliff: Celebrate our commitment with a
$25,000acknowledgment to the introducer. (1/4th total bounty) - Thereafter: A monthly testament of
$2,083.33 over three years, culminating in a full$100,000bounty, mirroring the growth and enrichment of our relationship.
🚩 Milestones and Payment Schedule
| Date | Event | Amount |
|---|---|---|
| 1/1/2024 | Introduction to potential partner | $0.00 |
| 1/5/2024 | First Date | $0.00 |
| 2/1/2024 | Dating | $0.00 |
| 1/4/2025 | Breakup: No Bounty Issued | $0.00 |
| 1/5/2025 | 1-year anniversary: Lump Sum | $25,000.00 |
| 2/5/2025 | 13-month anniversary: Monthly Installment | $2,083.33 |
| 6/5/2025 | Breakup: Month 18: Vesting Stops | $37,500.00 |
| 1/5/2028 | Full Vest | $100,000.00 |
📈 Profit Sharing: A Stake in Our Success
Opting for profit sharing means believing in our collective future’s potential. It’s a 10% share in my net income, a gesture of faith in not only the relationship’s emotional success but its financial symbiosis as well.
- Profit Sharing Percentage: The bounty is set at
10% of my net income, following the same vesting schedule as the fixed bounty. - Income Snapshot: My current income stands at approximately
$500,000 per yeargross, with a net income of around$300,000 per yearnet, or a$120,000bounty.
🌈 Scenarios
- Pessimistic Scenario (Decrease): If my salary decreases to
$250,000 per year, the bounty would adjust accordingly. - Average Scenario (Same): Assuming my salary remains steady at
$500,000per year`. - Optimistic Scenario (Increase): Should my salary increase to
$750,000 per year, the bounty would increase proportionately.
This option is designed for those who believe not just in the potential for a successful partnership but also in the financial growth and success that the future holds.
📈 Past Extrapolations
- 2022 Salary:
$180,000/yr(at the time of publishing this site) - Current 2024 Income:
$500,000/yr gross,$300,000/yr net(2.7x growth in 2 years!) - 2028 Income: If it grows by
1.5x,$750,000.00 gross, yielding a bounty of$180,000
| Type | Pessimistic Path | Average Path (No Change) | Happy Path |
|---|---|---|---|
| Comp | $250,000.00 | $500,000.00 | $750,000.00 |
| Net Comp | $150,000.00 | $300,000.00 | $450,000.00 |
| Total Bounty | $60,000.00 | $120,000.00 | $180,000.00 |
🔮 Projections Google Sheet
| Date | Mo | Event Description | Fixed | Pessimistic Path | Average Path (No Change) | Happy Path |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| 1/1/2024 | 0 | Introduction | $0.00 | $0.00 | $0.00 | $0.00 |
| 1/5/2024 | 0 | First Date | $0.00 | $0.00 | $0.00 | $0.00 |
| 2/1/2024 | 1 | Dating | $0.00 | $0.00 | $0.00 | $0.00 |
| 1/4/2025 | 12 | Breakup | $0.00 | $0.00 | $0.00 | $0.00 |
| 1/5/2025 | 12 | 1 year anniversary | $25,000.00 | $15,000.00 | $30,000.00 | $45,000.00 |
| 2/5/2025 | 13 | 13 month anniversary | $27,083.33 | $16,250.00 | $32,500.00 | $48,750.00 |
| 6/5/2025 | 17 | Month 18 (Breakup) | $35,416.67 | $21,250.00 | $42,500.00 | $63,750.00 |
| 1/5/2028 | 48 | Full Vest | $100,000.00 | $60,000.00 | $120,000.00 | $180,000.00 |
** CONSTANTS**
- Tax/Net Comp Multiplier: 0.6
- Profit Sharing Multiplier 0.1 (10%)
❤️ About Me - Discovering Toli
Discovering Toli isn’t just about reading a profile; it’s about connecting with a person who values depth, creativity, and the myriad forms love can take. I’m on a quest not just for a partner but for shared experiences, growth, and the joy of discovery. Let’s explore what magic we can create together.
📞 Contact / Apply
- Nominate a Match - Suggest someone you think would be an excellent match for me. Limit to 3 referrals per person. Quality over quantity please 😉
- Explore a Connection - Interested in dating me? Submit your application here.
- For any questions or more information, reach out at toli@toli.love
– With ❤️ Anatoliy (Toli) Zaslavskiy
💬 My Motto
Let me into your world and allow me to experience your magic. ✨
🐕 How do people Describe Me - Golden Retriever
Loyal, adventurous, and playfully naughty.
I value both emotional and physical intimacy and believe in diverse ways of loving. Open communication and assuming good intentions are crucial to me. I believe most conflicts arise from misunderstandings or differing desires, but I’m confident in finding creative solutions.
🎲 Passions & Play
- 🤸♂️ Acro yoga, cuddle parties and circling for connection.
- 🎥 Creating obscure parody videos—nothing’s off-limits.
- 🐶 Promise, my cuddly and athletic Border Collie mix.
- 💞 Open to exploring sex positivity and polyamory.
- 🧠 Diving deep into consciousness and AI discussions.
- 😡 I hold a grudge for max 1mo. Except for February
- 🏃♂️ Anything active - hiking, biking, swimming, jogging
- 🌴 Traveling - but only to warm places please!!
- 🇺🇸, 🇳🇮, 🇲🇽, 🇨🇷, 🇨🇦, 🇹🇿, 🇱🇷, 🇻🇳, 🇲🇾, 🇹🇭, 🇮🇱, 🇦🇺, 🇷🇺, 🇫🇮, 🇮🇹, 🇫🇷
- 🖥️ Proudly neurodivergent, pushing boundaries in frontend and prompt engineering at Dropbox.
- 🎨 Creativity.
- 😜 not taking life too seriously.
🔍 Also Looking For
- 💼 Work Opportunities: Seeking new challenges as a Senior/Staff Software Engineer ToliCodes
- 🪀 Activity Partners: Introduce me to something fun, new, and obscure!
- 🤣 Obscure Parody Video Partner - just because nobody else gets the reference, or…wants to get the reference, doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be parodied
- 🤸 AcroYoga Partner: Let’s play regularly in Prospect Park.
- 🐶 Pup Parents: My furry friend Promise wants some companions too.
🔗 Links
💌 Sex & Love
- sex.toli.love - 100+ things that turn me on
- Rejection, Breakups, Vulnurability, and BDSM
- Getting Back to Love
▶️ Media
💼 Work
- ToliCodes - my more “professional” site
- CV
- FE Infra Book - the ultimate guide to Frontend Interviews
- FB Ads Book
- API Scraping
- Scaling FE Teams - My HOVER Story
📸 Insta…ntly Fall In Love
🛝 Call To Action
Toli’s Playground is more than just a page of text—it’s a catalyst for getting you into action.
Immerse yourself in a lifelong adventure where you’ll cast away doubts, tear down your walls of shame, and dive into life with open hearts and boundless excitement.
Regardless of where you stand in your quest for love, we promise you a supportive community filled with kinky, quirky, and adrenaline-fueled people and experiences, all dedicated to helping you discover your true love(s).
In collaboration with a carefully chosen group of my favorite event organizers, we’re rolling out weekly events in your city, designed for exploring your deepest desires and connecting with those you’ll adore!
The gates open in just 3 days! Ready for some mischief? 😈
🌟 Inspiration
Welcome to toli.love, where love meets creativity meets quirky autism. Inspired by Mati Roy’s groundbreaking idea of offering a bounty for finding a primary partner, I’ve decided to embark on a similar journey. Join me in this unique experiment of love and connection.
👻 Legaleze - Spirit of the Agreement and Ethical Considerations
At the heart of this unique bounty offer lies a foundation of trust. It is designed to foster genuine connections above all. It’s about navigating the path of love with integrity, ensuring that our journey together honors the spirit of connection we set out to find.
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Fulfillment of Agreement: The agreement is considered fulfilled when both my partner and I feel that its essence has been honored. Integrity is paramount in this process, and I seek a partner who equally values their word.
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Protection for the Matchmaker: We rely on the social consequences of not honoring our commitment to act as a safeguard. This means that any failure to adhere to the spirit of the agreement could potentially affect our social reputation.
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Lost Job/Hardship: In the event of job loss, reduced income, or financial hardship, the bounty payouts will be temporarily suspended. Once employment is resumed, payments will continue on a regular schedule, with the vesting period adjusted accordingly. For example, if there is a 6-month period of unemployment, the vesting schedule will extend to 4.5 years from the original end date.
This arrangement is about more than just financial transactions; it’s a commitment to exploring the depths of human connection, supported by a framework that values integrity, respect, and the transformative power of love.
❓ FAQ
AGREEMENT FUNDAMENTALS
Primary Partners Definition:
What constitutes becoming “primary partners” under this bounty agreement?
Becoming “primary partners” is defined by a mutual decision to commit to a relationship that is considered the most significant and long-term above all others. This status is determined jointly by both parties involved after a year of the introduction.
Polyamory Considerations: How does the bounty agreement accommodate Toli’s polyamorous lifestyle? The bounty agreement is designed with a deep understanding and respect for the diverse spectrum of relationship dynamics, including those characteristic of polyamory. It is inclusive of a range of commitments, from traditional monogamous ones to more fluid and evolving polyamorous partnerships, emphasizing a broad respect for the diversity of love and connection.
Specifically, the agreement stipulates that the bounty payout is exclusively for the individual who introduces me to a person with whom I establish a “primary partnership”, or my most significant long-term relationship, as mutually determined after a year. This relationship, will be recognized as the primary partnership for the purposes of this bounty, reflecting the agreement’s flexibility and its acknowledgment of various forms of relationships.
CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Conflicts of Interest:
How will the agreement address potential conflicts of interest, such as the introducer having a personal stake in the outcome?
Should a conflict arise, we will promptly address it, ensuring that the introduction and subsequent relationship development are conducted in good faith. See “Spirit of the Agreement”
Dispute Resolution:
In the case of a dispute, how will it be resolved?
Both parties forfeit the right to formal mediation or arbitration and should privately address any conflicts that arise.
Modification and Cancellation:
Can the bounty agreement be modified or canceled once it is in effect?
Any modifications or cancellations to the bounty agreement must be mutually agreed upon by all parties involved. The agreement will detail the process for making changes, ensuring transparency and fairness.
ELIGIBILITY AND INTRODUCTION SCENARIOS
Self-Introduction:
Can someone receive a bounty for introducing themselves?
No.
Multiple Introducers:
What if the primary partner was introduced by more than one person or in some other ambiguous situation?
In cases where multiple introducers claim to have facilitated the introduction to the primary partner, or the introduction is unclear (for example, reading a newspaper article), the matched parties will individually evaluate the significance of each introduction’s role and timing to make a final decision.
FINANCIAL ASPECTS
End of Relationship:
*What happens if the relationship ends before the full $100,000 is paid out?
If the relationship ends before the full amount is paid, the vesting schedule is halted, and no further payments will be made. The agreement specifies the conditions under which the payouts cease, emphasizing the importance of the relationship’s longevity to the bounty’s continuation.
Toli FAQ
About Me
- Name: Anatoliy (Toli) Zaslavskiy
- Date of Birth: June 22, 1992 (Age: 31)
- Location: Brooklyn, NYC
- Gender: Male (He/Him)
Polyamory My experience with polyamory has been a path of profound personal development. While I don’t adhere to it as an unchangeable aspect of my identity, it has played a crucial role in my journey towards overcoming shame, setting healthy boundaries, asking for what I want, and dealing with co-dependency. The community around this lifestyle has been a guiding light towards a more enriching life.
Ultimately, what’s most important to me is cultivating a life enriched with quirkiness, joy, and adventurous fun, shared with those I hold close to my heart.
On the Topic of Children The question of whether I envision children in my future is one I approach with considerable thought and care. At this stage in my life, I’m focused on personal growth, achieving stability, and laying a strong foundation for the future. These priorities are important to me, not just for my own well-being, but also for the well-being of any potential family I might choose to start.
I deeply value the responsibilities that come with parenthood and believe that bringing a child into the world is a decision that should be made with both heart and mind fully aligned. It’s crucial to me that I’m in a position where I can offer the best possible environment for a child to grow, learn, and thrive.
That said, I remain open to the possibilities the future may hold. I’m hopeful and excited about the journey ahead, including the potential of welcoming children into my life when the time feels right. Until then, I am committed to building a life filled with meaning, purpose, and readiness for whatever may come.
Application Questions
COMPATIBILITY & VALUES
Values & Habits
- Core Values: How do you define your core values, and how do they guide your relationships?
- Loyalty: What does loyalty mean to you in the context of a romantic relationship?
- Life Balance: How do you perceive the balance between not taking life too seriously and addressing the serious aspects of a partnership?
- Self-Growth: How do you practice self-growth and encourage it in your partner?
Adventure, Play, Hobbies, and Creativity:
- What role does adventure play in your life, and how do you incorporate it into your relationships?
- How do you feel about incorporating creativity into a relationship?
- Can you share examples of creative endeavors you enjoy?
- What do you like to do with your free time?
COMMUNICATION
Communication & Conflict:
- Can you share your thoughts on open communication and how you practice it in your relationships? How do you approach conflict resolution, especially in the context of misunderstandings or differing desires?
Challenging Situations:
- Describe a challenging situation you’ve faced in a relationship and how you navigated it.
RELATIONSHIP
Intimacy:
- How important is emotional and physical intimacy to you, and what are your expectations around it in a partnership?
Polyamory Views:
- What are your views on polyamory and non-monogamy? Have you had any experiences in polyamorous relationships?
Shared Living & Finances:
- In terms of shared living and finances, what’s your ideal scenario or arrangement?
Unconventional Approach:
- What draws you to the idea of being in a relationship that’s initiated through an unconventional approach like a bounty system?
REFLECTION & COMPATIBILITY
Mutual Compatibility:
- Why do you believe you and I might be compatible, based on what you know about me and what you’ve shared about yourself?
📞 Contact / Apply
- Nominate a Match - Suggest someone you think would be an excellent match for me. Limit to 3 referrals per person. Quality over quantity please 😉
- Explore a Connection - Interested in dating me? Submit your application here.
- For any questions or more information, reach out at toli@toli.love
– With ❤️ Anatoliy (Toli) Zaslavskiy